Single and fabulous

Was thinking about this while driving. Let me list the things of being single (and fabulous):

1. I do not need to tell anyone what I'm doing, where I'm going and who I'm with.
2. I can just pack and go (eg. for holiday, studies, chill-out, etc)
3. I do not need to buy extra souvenirs/presents when I'm travelling or shopping.
4. I can do my own things and not worry about what's up with the other.
5. I do not need to feel bad when I go shopping for myself.

OK, don't get me wrong. I'm not saying that I don't ever want to be in a relationship and be married - of course I want that. But not quite now. Think about it: I'm just kept very busy with work and there are so many things I want to do(like doing Masters, travelling, etc). It would be pretty unfair to drag another into my world and have him wait around for me while I do my stuff. OK, the argument can just turn the other way - get someone who is like-minded. That one, I leave it to God.

Sure, there are times I wish I had another with me. But I do wonder, when I see couples, bf-gf/husband-wife(and them as parents), what kind of things they face together, what issues or problems they have to put up with. I'm not saying that I want a perfect relationship with no issues. What I do want to know and even learn is how they cope with problems or do they just sweep it under the carpet and just go on.

Seriously, being single right now is great. In fact, I am seeing and even learning things as I go along. I watch my parents (bless them!), I read books with godly wisdom and learn how to be a woman God wants me to be, I listen to others and think about what they say about their own relationships and yes, I learn a lot about myself while teaching (plus the other 80% of the time doing other things). These are things that I might be blind to if I were in a relationship because I won't be as clear-headed to think about what I really want.

Tessa and me were just talking about this last week and we thought about this - it's better to be a strong woman(mentally, emotionally, spiritually & of course be healthy) so that she can stand with her man and be his pillar of support and strength. It's no point being the sweet, demure thing or damsel in distress who waits for her knight in shining armour (yes, yes, unfortunately, many men like this)but is incapable of being the support and helper God intended for the woman to be. (Instead, she will probably scream & cry,"Help! How? We're all going to die!") I'm very sure that I'm not the demure thing in distress but I'm pretty sure I can handle things when the going gets tough, by God's grace.

I am very sure that this is a fantastic season that God is putting me through. I have no idea when and how God will orchestrate circumstances but I trust Him. Perhaps He knows that I'm better off single (ok, this is something I have to deal with because I'm not too sure about that since I have already thought of names for my kids! :p) .

A lot of things, I don't know but what I do know is this, that my God is good and He is faithful and He loves me too much to put me through anything that will agonise me for the rest of my life. What I can do for now is to live my life for Him and be beautiful and let His beauty be seen in me. (Proverbs 30)

I get acquaintances, friends and relatives asking if I'm seeing anyone or if and when I'm getting married. If there's anything else, that's the one thing I can live without.

I will not be single and fabulous all my life (hmm..the fabulous bit will still stay :p) so I'm enjoying this season God is putting me through while it lasts. So I'll be happy and contended for as long as God wants me to and I'll just let it be.

Single and fabulous.

(Thanks, Agnes, for the top. It's tops!)